Just days ago there was snow on the ground, and now snowdrops are blooming and daffodils are poking their spears through decayed dead leaves of last fall. Warmer winds are caressing the barren trees, and the tips of their branches are blushing with swelling buds. Even though spring comes every year I still find it miraculous, as if the whole world is recreated in just a week or two.
In the beginning God created the heavens and the earth, and the earth was formless, empty and dark. This is actually where we start with our marriages. It may be that the period of emptiness was before you met your partner, maybe a time when you were lonely and looking for love, or perhaps when you just didn't think about it. Or maybe you have been married for a while and found that your marriage did not live up to your expectations.
For some people part of the emptiness may be in their relationship with God. God may seem distant or uncaring, or the whole idea of God may be dark and empty for them. Yet even when we are so disconnected from God, He cares about us.
The first step in our spiritual process is to see something that we had not seen be-fore, to be aware of our potential or recognize our blind spots.
Take a blank piece of paper and divide it into two columns, one for darkness and one for light, and fill in as many traits or qualities that you can. Each light or dark quality has its opposite. Don’t worry if the “light” qualities seem beyond your reach. The first light is just awareness of the possibility of something better and higher than what you now have. Try to add one or two items to the list each day this week.
| Darkness | Light |
|---|---|
| What is the emptiness and darkness in my marriage, my relationships and my life? | What are the possibilities and goodness in my marriage, relationships and life? |
| Self centeredness, Anger towards my wife, Nagging my husband |
Focusing on God’s love, Listening, empathy, Letting him be my hero |
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